Ep 15: The Power of Mindset: Change Your Life by Embracing Synchronicities

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I really think the reason why people think that I have so many

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synchronicities and how things line up

perfectly for me is because I look for it.

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So I'm driving home and I got a later

start which actually I was okay with.

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It perfectly worked out because now I'm

getting to witness a gorgeous sunrise

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in the back roads of North Carolina.

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But that said, when I was turning

down this two lane road that I'm

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on for quite a while, this big

dump truck turned right before me.

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And my instinct was, ah, crap.

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Now I'm going to get stuck by this slow

vehicle, but then I stopped and thought,

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no, there has to be a reason for this.

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Okay.

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And then I let it go.

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As we're driving, I'm

behind this slow vehicle.

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There's no one behind me.

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It's pretty dead going this direction.

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Then I realized I'm coming

up on my favorite field and

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my favorite dilapidated barn.

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So I rolled out my window, flip my iPhone

into cinematic mode and I rest it on

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this perfectly placed pillow on top of

a pile of books that I'm bringing back.

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And I don't look, I just hit record.

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And now I captured a beautiful sunrise

video of my favorite field with my

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favorite barn and I wouldn't have had

that if I wasn't behind a slow vehicle.

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I slowed down because

there was no one behind me.

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I wouldn't have had time to think,

Oh my goodness, it's coming up.

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I wouldn't have probably paid attention.

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So look how it's perfectly

working out for me.

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That is a mindset choice.

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Now, could be a normal.

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I'm so annoyed that you're

behind this little vehicle.

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But I choose to see it that way.

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Isn't that a miracle?

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Isn't that perfect orchestration?

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Isn't that divine timing?

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I sure as hell think it is.

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And the more I've trained my brain to be a

cooperative component in looking for this

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stuff, the easier it is for me to find it.

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It really is the way you approach

situations with your mindset.

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It's the way you choose to look at things.

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Dr.

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Wayne Dyer always said, change

the way you look at things and

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the things you look at change.

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Boy, oh boy, is that right.

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It sounds great.

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It's a wonderful quote.

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But to actually live it, to actually

put it into practice in your

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daily life, that's the good stuff.

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That's what he would say.

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Not this quote on a daily

calendar of inspirational quotes.

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The idea is to live it.

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My question for you is,

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is there a way for you to purposely

start to build this habit?

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Create a reminder, maybe putting an alert

on your phone, something on your calendar.

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Maybe, a solid three times a day when

this alert comes on, to stop and make

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the choice to, Oh, that's my reminder.

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I'm going to be aware and see what I find.

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Then the next part I

think is really important.

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Is to jot down notes.

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To jot down these little moments.

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Like right now, with the

field, with the truck.

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Because you'll forget them.

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And eventually that's fine because

it's about being in the present moment.

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But at first, your brain needs that data.

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It needs that evidence.

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It needs

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so give it to your brain.

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Ways to do that could be

just your simple notes app.

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I like to use Google

keep that's a free app.

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You can use voice memos.

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I also do that.

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That's how I'm recording this.

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You could do a physical journal.

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I ended up doing my phone cause

what's always with me, my phone.

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Sometimes I do write things

down cause there is something

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special about handwriting.

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Let's not be tech don't overthink this.

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Don't overcomplicate this.

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This is not more homework.

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This is creating a new pattern

in your brain for it to

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become a part of your being.

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I don't sit and plan now.

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Now, literally, this is just a part of me.

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me.

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This is how I live my life.

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I appreciate things.

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I've been practicing gratitude in

this gratitude app for, I'd have

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to look at the number of days,

like over, I know: 3000

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I don't remember.

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It was before the pandemic.

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So let's say at least five years on

this app, app I use called gratitude.

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And I really feel like

that's a part of it as well.

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It's looking for things to be grateful

for, but this is beyond gratitude.

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This is being in awe.

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Things to be in awe of.

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This is awesome.

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When we say awesome, it's full of awe.

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Gratitude is a place that you can

start, but I think this is more

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powerful because this is moments that

hit you emotionally and that starts

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to store new neural pathways in your

brain at a faster rate than gratitude.

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I talk about this with

people all the time.

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Gratitude has a sense of lack in it.

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Oh, I'm so grateful that I

have a paycheck every week.

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The underlying thought is,

because a lot of people don't.

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I'm so thankful that I witnessed this

sunrise cause a lot of people don't.

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Right?

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There's always a, I'm so glad of

this because others don't get it.

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It's a good place to start.

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I said I practice gratitude, but the best

way to do it is the little awesomes.

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The little awe filled moments.

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So try it out, and I'd

love to hear from you.

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How is that for you?

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How's that experience going?

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Just observe what comes up and you can

throw that on your journal as well.

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Be curious.

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No goals.

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No awards.

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No trophies.

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No gold stars.

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This is Just playing around, seeing

what happens and you'll be surprised.

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You will be very surprised.

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Happy awesome searching.