Ep 31: Social Media Influencers Don't Know More Than You: Flipping the Script on Learning

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had to hop on now because you never know when inspiration

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will strike, so consider this

a voice memo from a friend.

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Just as I got in my car this morning,

I was thinking to myself, when am I

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going to record another podcast episode?

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When is this going to come to me?

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Then it's popped into my head.

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So here you go.

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So many people are reaching

outside of themselves for answers.

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If you go on TikTok, there's tons

of people giving their point of

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view, their opinion, their hot

take on how to date, how to raise

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a family, how to heal yourself, how

to start a spiritual practice, how,

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how, how this is how this is how.

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And so many people.

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People eat that stuff up because

they see glimmers of themselves and

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their truth within the comments and

within the information provided in

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these videos or even written works.

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But there comes a point where we need

to stop looking outside of ourselves.

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We need to stop looking at external

forces, external resources.

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Yes, that even includes,

ironically, this podcast.

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As I'm telling you this information,

I'm saying you don't need to.

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If you need this information,

what you really need to do is tune

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into yourself and your own inner

knowing and your own self knowledge.

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The reason things resonate with

you is because they resonate with

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a piece of knowledge that is within

you already and it's waking it up.

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There's beliefs that have

been clouding your judgment.

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There are things that have been blocking

your way towards the new life that

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you want, the The new experiences

you want, the new fill in the blank.

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So really when you're learning,

stop looking at it as,

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this teacher has all the information,

like a hierarchy, instead, view

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it as a journey of remembering.

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So anytime you feel any kind of, oh

yeah, oh I totally get what she's

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saying, don't look at it as this person

disseminating knowledge to you, look

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at it as waking up knowledge that has

been dormant within you all along.

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When you flip the script like that,

you're not giving your power away, and

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you're also practicing discernment,

because if it doesn't resonate with you,

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then it doesn't mean you need to force

yourself into that being your truth,

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because some influencer on social media

said it to be so, or some newscaster said

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there was some report that made it so.

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This doesn't mean you should live

in a world of confirmation bias.

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And live in an echo chamber where

all you have are people around

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you saying the same exact thing.

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No, no, no, no, no.

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Of course, you should have different

points of views presented and be

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sifting through all different walks of

life and all different perspectives.

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Different stories.

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What you're really looking for is

that, "ah-hah", wakening feeling.

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That's different than confirmation bias.

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That's different than ego.

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And this is where internal

discernment comes into play.

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Your ego is going to say, yeah,

they believe what I believe.

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That's right.

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They're wrong.

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Us versus them.

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That's where you get your

confirmation bias, where you

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aren't really seeing the truth.

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You're just seeing seeing

what your ego wants to see.

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Can we put that on a shelf?

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That is not what I'm talking about here.

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What I'm talking about

is that intuitive hit.

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That whoa , yeah, that's a new thought,

that lightning bolt of excitement when

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that idea hits you, when something

resonates with you, when you're

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moved to tears, when you get chills.

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All of a sudden you feel lighter

or you feel like your whole

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perspective is shifted and you

see the world in a different way.

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That's what I'm talking about.

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That's the awakening of things

that have been asleep within you.

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Why do you think it's called

going through a great awakening?

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You're awakening things that you've put to

sleep, oftentimes by no means of your own,

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just by society telling you something as

a child and you're taught to believe this

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one thing and not do this other thing.

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But it's awakening things that are within

you that maybe you've never met before

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or that you knew at a younger age and

you're welcoming back into yourself.

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What are these things I'm talking about?

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I mean, it could be pieces of knowledge.

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So it could be resonating

with an ancient text.

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Like for me, the Tao Te Ching

really resonated with me.

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That was a huge waking up a, a

giant thing uh, when I read Dr.

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Wayne Dyer's Change Your Thoughts, Change

Your Life, which is his verse by verse

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analysis of the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu.

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that could be literally like an

awakening of some inner spiritual

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knowledge that resonates within you.

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But then it can also be an awakening

to a different perspective.

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Meaning, oh, I hadn't

thought about it that way.

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Or, Whoa, you just gave that an entire

different meaning to me, or it could be

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in your interpersonal communications,

seeing something through someone else's

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eyes, as Atticus Finch would say,

climbing in someone's skin and walking

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around in it, walking a mile in someone

else's shoes, that sort of thing.

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The cool thing is those aha

moments can also be creation.

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That can be those creative ideas.

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It's like, you know, when you're

brainstorming and you've got that

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collective consciousness power going in a

group and all of a sudden you're like, Oh

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my God, that's the million dollar idea.

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It's interesting to think about it

being something that it was awakened

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within you versus receiving something.

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This is an idea I'm playing

with, so stick with me here.

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If you're still with me, that means

that obviously this must have awakened

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something that was within you, right?

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It resonated with something within you.

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So you've got all these.

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There are all these different ways

that, that things that are lying

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dormant within you can wake up, right?

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so what does that have to do, this is

a people pleaser recovery, podcast.

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What in the world does that

have to do with anything?

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Well, really people pleasing is a

surface level definition of abandoning

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your connection between you, your

human self, and you, your high self.

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That's my opinion.

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That's what my experience has been.

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With that as a working definition,

really, if you abandon yourself, that

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means you put something to sleep, right?

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It's asleep.

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It's dormant.

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It's not awake within you.

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That connection has gone silent.

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You hit the mute button

or you hung up the call.

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So when you have these moments,

they're going to reconnect

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you with who you really are.

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You are a spiritual being

having a human experience.

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So it's going to wake up that connection

moment by moment, experience by

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experience, moment by aha moment.

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Then from there, it's like, have you

ever learned something about someone?

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And then like, you can't unknow it or

seen something and you can't unsee it.

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Well, usually that's used in a negative

context, but I'm going to use it in a

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positive wake up, glow up context here.

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Once you have these aha moments.

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Once these awakening moments, you can't

unknow them, you can't unsee them.

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You might try to shove them down

and ignore it because now it's just

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rattled your cage and sometimes

turned your world upside down.

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You can't unknow that knowledge

though, no, you can't.

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Not with who you are today.

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That's not possible.

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it's going to force you to integrate

this knowledge into your day to day life.

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And I laugh because You're

going to have resistance.

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There's going to be parts of you that

are like, no, I don't want to change.

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I don't want to grow.

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I don't want to, I don't

want to, I don't want to.

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I literally went through

this myself the past month.

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But once you get over your ego hissy fit,

you will start to add this information

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and these new pieces of knowledge and

this awakening, , reacquainting yourself

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with parts of your, who you really are.

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That will start to influence choices that

you make and how you behave in the world,

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how you interact with other people, and

even impact your interests, your hobbies.

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An example of that is I used to

be totally into the true crime,

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world I loved murder mystery books

and all that since I was a kid.

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I still love mysteries, but not

so much the murder, but I was down

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that rabbit hole, like everyone

else reading the books, listening

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to the podcasts, like my favorite

murder used to love that podcast.

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That is what serenaded

me to and from work.

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I used to listen to undisclosed and

all these other true crime podcasts.

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But once I started listening to these

whispers, the soul connection, awakening

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parts of me, I started to naturally repel.

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I remember saying to a friend,

I can't believe I can't listen

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to these podcasts anymore.

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And I truly, genuinely enjoyed the

mystery, the unfolding of these stories

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, and hopefully the victories at the end,

and I, Don't resonate anymore because

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different parts of me are awake now.

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They're not silent anymore.

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My body literally rejects the

negativity, the heaviness, the

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harshness within those stories.

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And part of me was really sad.

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I really enjoyed it, but I can't go back.

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I can't.

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It's one of those, once you

see it, you can't unsee it.

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So you might notice those things

happening and little by little

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it's gonna change your life.

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When you start connecting with who

you really are, you're gonna like

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yourself, you're not going to abandon

yourself, meaning you're not going to

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people please, and you're going to be

able to handle and tolerate difficult

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things, and little by little, you're

going to build up your tolerance to be

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able to tolerate the tension, which is

a phrase I use all the time on here,

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if you're a long time listener, thank

you, and you know I say this all the

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time, you'll be able to tolerate the

tension and be able to stay Speak up for

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yourself more, which is a key missing

component when we people please, right?

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Using your voice, advocating for yourself.

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So how do you begin?

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Well, there really is no beginning.

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It's just an awareness.

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There is no, I need to start by

doing this habit every single day.

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Like I need to do this journaling prompt

and then I need to do this fancy routine.

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Nah, it just comes with observing.

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So if you were going to look for a

routine, I always say you should start

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by meditating because meditating teaches

you to be the observer of your thoughts,

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to not be of your thoughts, but to

disconnect and observe your thoughts.

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If you can observe your thoughts,

then you can start to observe your

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body and your mind connection.

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And then when you start observing that,

then you're going to be able to notice

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when you have those moments, those, Oh

yes, aha moments, those resonance moments.

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Then you'll be able to observe

what's been within you all along.

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Start to wake up.

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There you have it folks.

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We've solved all the

problems of the world.

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You just got to start listening to

Those little nudges, those little aha

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moments, those little wake up moments.

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So, what woke up within you

after listening to this episode?

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Because remember, we're moving away

from the hierarchy of The teacher knows

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and the student is learning, right?

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Jenny knows everything

and I'm learning from her.

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No, no, no, no.

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We're moving away from that paradigm.

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We're moving into, what did

this reacquaint you with?

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What did this wake you up to?

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What did this remind you of?

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There's a little kernel within

you that this resonated with.

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What was it?

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Let me know in the comments,

I'd love to hear from you.

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Send me a DM on socials, email me.

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All that info is in the show notes.

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Please just take time every day to

connect with you and see how it blossoms.